The Real Deal
“Sometimes it’s a form of love just to talk to somebody that you have nothing in common with and still be fascinated by their presence.” – David Byrne
It’s got to be genuine. Genuinely felt. None of this “Am I looking and acting the way they taught me was cool in the sitcoms and magazine ads?” “politeness”.
In our society, of those who voluntarily make the legal and spiritual commitment of marriage, 60% of the women and 80% of the men will violate these vows.
Falseness has become the accepted standard of interrelationship among us. To the point at which if we have not budgeted for it in our own relationships, all our friends think we’re just stupid.
We’re not stupid. It really IS “better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.” FALSENESS is stupid. Let’s get rid of it, and replace it with something real.
A little actual interest in what someone a bit different from ourselves has to say might alleviate the pandemic of face-aching boredom of which Samuel Coleridge writes, caused by smiling endlessly at the endless piddling sameness of politically correct cocktail-party conversation with which the “desireable” classes “amuse” themselves, ya think?
~ generosity ~ gifting ~
~ the kindness of that should be genuine also.
It’s very easy to tell when gifters are actually motivated by guilt, ego, morbid curiosity or the desire to see themselves as street-wise.
yours foolie politely thanks them for whatever offer they’re making. Upon parting, however, whatever her level of need or hardship in that moment might be, their ‘gifts’ are still in their hands.
“A gift, with a kind countenance, is a double present.” – Thomas Fuller
yours foolie has noticed a new breed of giver
on our urban streets of late
Bless those people a million times.
“Always keep an open mind and a compassionate heart.”